Motivating Monday - Marriage
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. - Amy Bloom
A lot of people would think that because we got married at 18 and 19 years old, that we did it based on the fact that we had a child together (who, at the time, was 6 months old). Some would say we were "crazy", and some actually had even said they didn't see us lasting. We weren't getting married to prove others wrong, we were getting married because we loved each other. We didn't need a fancy ceremony, with a dress, flowers, and cake to show the world we loved each other. We did the exact opposite, and went to the courthouse on a rainy afternoon and tied the knot. It was the smallest celebration, but the biggest defining moment of our lives as a couple.
I can't say that it has been a perfect 4 years of marriage, because like any couple, we've had disagreements. We've had fights about meaningful subjects, and some just ridiculous ones. We've cried, we've screamed, we've laughed, and we've moved on. Everyday that I go to bed, is another day that I have spent loving my husband 100%. I've also spent a lot of time thinking about my parents, and other married couples and how they are doing it. Long story short, my parents divorced right before my eyes. I have a fear that one day we will have "the fight" and everything will come crashing down. It's a realistic fear, it could most definitely happen. Couples divorce every single day, and a marriage takes work. If one starts to fail at that work, it could go downhill pretty quickly.
Nothing motivates me more then seeing that elderly couple at the park, holding hands, not paying any attention to anyone around them. I don't care if that's not their first wife or husband, it's the image that if we work hard enough, we could make it to that point. To that age where our children are grown, our grandchild come to spend the night, and we walk through the park just holding hands. If we could spend almost our entire lifetime loving each other, trusting each other, what a miracle that is. If we could show our children and our grandchildren that love can last, how beautiful that will be.
You know, I too hold on to that image of growing old together. I want us to be that couple that our children, our grandchildren and great-grandchildren look up to and thrive to be like. Marriage surely does take work, but knowing what you're working towards is all worth it.
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There is something comforting in seeing older couples and how they made it. My parents are celebrating 33 yrs this year, and I am thankful for their example. I agree marriage is work.
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That is what so many people don't understand about marriage is the work. The work everyday to remember why you married...the reason to stay married and the love to keep the marriage alive. I have been married 10 years and I tell you that as more time passes that the work gets to be a bit tougher...but all the more worth every bit!
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